You are worthy of your dreams.
Hi, usually I only write one blog post a year but here we are, back at it haha. Not many people know it, but I am really into motivation & have always wanted to be a motivational speaker. I don’t want to do it until I feel like I’ve truly made an impact in some sort of way though hehe. <3 Anyways, I wanted to talk about dreams & goals in this post. I hope that by writing these, it feels like you are talking to a friend because that is how I feel when I write this stuff.
When it comes to having dreams & goals, I've noticed so many people our age don’t like to talk about the things they actually want to pursue in their life. I have been in this situation too so I get the feeling of feeling dumb & not wanting to share something with someone out of fear of judgment, or maybe feeling like they might not believe in you. So here is a mini-story about something that changed my perspective on everything.
I have written this a million times trying to make it sound perfect so I don’t step on any toes but I’m not trying to be perfect, I’m trying to be real. I feel like so many people in Wyoming have these big dreams, but they are too afraid to take the steps to achieve their goals out of fear of failure. There’s not a lot of opportunity in Wyoming, BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN’T CREATE IT.
I used to be so upset that I was born in Wyoming, I would wish I was from California or somewhere big because then I would have easier access to everything I want to do, but then everything changed for me in a small moment. After I gave up my teen title, I was immediately asked if I would be competing for miss in a different state so I had a better chance at Miss USA. This was a very disheartening moment for me, like could I really not represent the state that made me who I am as I chase one of my biggest dreams? It really weighed on me, I thought about this comment every single day. Does my state make me unworthy of my dreams?
A few weeks later I went to work & I was still getting to know many of my coworkers. I was talking to one of them & she randomly said: “I really think you have what it takes to be Miss USA, & it will be so cool to have someone like you represent all of us, you are exactly what I would want people to think of when they think of Wyoming.” This will stick with me for the rest of my life. <3 Little does she know she completely changed my perspective about my dreams & my circumstances, she helped me discover my WHY.
When you find your why, it’s like finding a key to all of the things that never completely made sense. You accept every failure you have ever endured because you know it shaped you to be a better fit for your goals. You have a bigger purpose & a stronger understanding of what you want in life. I realized I didn’t just have this random dream. This dream of mine is a God-given gift & you have been given one too, we all have one, but it’s up to you to have the courage to chase it.
SIDE NOTE: You don’t have to be embarrassed by the things you want in life, life is too short to think about what other people think about you, so just own it even if people think you’re insane.
I have always loved to lead, when I am able to talk to girls & see them light up with a sparkle of hope, that’s what makes my life worth living. All I have ever wanted to do is help girls chase their dreams, which is why I am so obsessed & determined with my own goals, because I want to not only lead girls to follow their dreams but show them it can be done. So it makes complete sense why God gave me the desire to be Miss USA because it would give me the perfect platform to connect & relate to women all around the world, but even if I don’t win (which hello there’s a very big possibility of that) I will still be able to fulfill my life purpose, I’ll just find a different way. <3 Life is full of curveballs, but there’s always another door if the one you knock on doesn’t open.
When you choose to chase your dreams you are going to fail, A LOT. You have to be able to move forward in the face of adversity, winners will always continue to walk even when they want to crawl. You only lose when you stop trying. So if you haven’t I encourage you to set goals for yourself & become self-disciplined when it comes to your dreams. You have to be stubborn & you have to own the things that you want in life, not hide behind them. There is a huge difference between being conceited & being confident with what you want. Find small ways to channel the person you want to be in ten years in your current everyday life. You will get there if you believe you can, & if you ever want to talk to someone my dms are always open! Also, if the road to your dreams is difficult, that just makes the success story that much greater. <3