You are worth it & you don’t need anyone to validate that.
As girls, we look for outside validation in many different ways. We ask our friends, our family, we look for reassurance with boys. The thing is, you need to work on finding that validation within yourself. When you find true confidence & accept who you are, it is a very transitional thing, & sometimes I feel like girls only reach this after major defeat or heartbreak.
This leads me to my next topic, being alone. I have watched people walk out of my life that I thought would be in my wedding & I have had to live without people I love that no longer serve me. When you are working towards big things, you have to use these obstacles as stepping stones to get back up. I hope that if you are struggling with school, have family issues, or are having a hard time accepting the flaws you point out to yourself every time you look in the mirror, that you just take a step back & realize how far you have come.
I understand that hard times happen, that we all have our unique stories & that sometimes it can be very lonely, but you don’t have to live in that moment or in that circumstance. I believe that we aren’t ever given a challenge that God knows we can’t conquer. So if you’re struggling right now with anything, just know it is because you are being prepared for your next big step. There is always a bigger picture, we just aren’t able to step back and admire it until we’ve been through all of the things that make that picture what it is.
As for looking for ways to cope with these times, you have to get comfortable being uncomfortable & understand it’s okay to be alone. I think you become the strongest version of who you are when you have no other option but to be there for yourself. Take yourself to the gym, go on a walk, go study alone at a coffee shop. You don’t need other people to go with you or to be a part of something you want to do for it to be okay. I am learning & continuing to work on many of these things too, which is why I feel it on my heart to write about it. One of my favorite quotes recently is
“Learn to be alone without being lonely, learn to admire your beauty without finding fault, & learn to love yourself without the love of others.”
During periods of loneliness, we learn the most about ourselves, so when the right people finally walk into your life, you’ll know they deserve to be there.