I talk to so many girls about motivation, working out, passion, & finding the willpower to do certain things. I have always been a very self-motivated person, I grew up with two older sisters, but I was very dependent on my creativity & imagination to keep myself busy. I have always wished that I had a younger sister or someone to lead & mentor through life, but I don’t, which is why I feel so drawn to helping girls in general. I am so grateful for my pageant background because it has connected me to so many girls that are doing such amazing things. I have friends starting podcasts, jewelry lines, becoming lawyers, & so many other incredible things.
I talk to so many people in dm’s & the most common message I get is “I wish I had your drive to do something like that.” Girl? Tough love... but what’s stopping you? We all have the same 24 hours, & you have so much power locked inside of you. Find the keys & unlock it, babe, because the world is waiting for that magic. You have to find ways to motivate yourself because no one is going to do that for you. It can be such an overwhelming feeling not knowing what’s next or being confused with your passions. Which by the way, it’s okay if you have multiple things that you’re interested in.
We are at an age where things aren’t supposed to make complete sense, we have a lot to balance in our twenties y’all. It’s not supposed to be an easy time, it’s supposed to be a period of growth & learning. For every good thing that happens to us, there has to be at least ten embarrassing *why did this have to happen, are you kidding me* moments. Such is life, but we learn from it & we pick ourselves back up for success, because that’s what queens do, we rise.
You have to get over any circumstances that have made you feel inferior. Let go of the things that don’t serve you & figure out how you can level up. You aren’t going to find contentment sitting in your bed scrolling through Instagram wishing you were this girl or that girl. I am starting to realize that I have no control over 90% of my life, but that 10%... GIRL, I GOT IT. So hold on to what you can hold on to & work with it. You have to be mindful of where you invest your energy because once you’re at a certain level mentally, not just anyone deserves access to that? You have to protect yourself & your heart, & it even says this in the bible.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” - Proverbs 4:23.
If that doesn’t strike something within you please message me so I can personally come hit you on the head. Just kidding, but that verse hits differently. I am a very bubbly person & I am a girl that wants to love & be loved, but that has gotten me into situations where I’ve been taken advantage of & left drained. We work too hard to tap into that angel energy for it to be valued & appreciated. Here’s the tea sis, you can bless people & love them without emptying yourself to fill them up. You shouldn't build your walls up & block people out, that isn’t what God would want for you (or whatever you believe in but I’m writing from my heart & this is my viewpoint, take it or leave what resonates). We all can bless people with small actions & simple kindness, but your heart is a prize & it deserves to be won. Your creativity flows from your heart & when your heart is full of anger, resentment, or sadness your ability to create is blocked. You & I both know you don’t have time for that, so all I’m saying is to
Protect. Your. Heart.
How I raise my vibe & pick myself up when I’m down:
- Don’t check your phone in the morning, emails are okay :)
- Drink hot lemon water in the AM with honey, debloats & will make you feel good.
- Read inspirational quotes on Pinterest.
- Read a self-help book or a daily devotional (even if it’s one chapter).
- Listen to music & go for a walk.
- Workout, like blast music &, pretend you’re famous vibes.
- Hang out with your friends, even if you want to be alone (some of my best times have come from forcing myself to go do something rather than sit in my room & sulk).
- Listen to motivational speeches.
- Lay in the sun or do something outside.
- Write down goals as if you have already achieved them.
- Put some fake tan on, this solves 75% of my issues <3