Don’t Kill My Vibe.

I feel like what I’m about to talk about is random, but I feel like almost every girl will be able to relate to it, which is why I think it’s important. I want to talk about authenticity & how important it is to just be yourself. We have all been in situations where we feel like we need to adjust our personality or hold back, & that feeling sucks. Social media has created a huge pressure to look, act, & present ourselves in a certain way. I just want to remind you that your value is not based on the thoughts or feelings of other people.

It’s much easier said than done, but when you truly let go of the worry & the fear of what people think about you, you are opening up a whole new world of possibility for yourself. I was just talking to a friend about embarrassing moments, in this case, it was how we both attempted to start YouTube channels & we were dying laughing because it was so cringy, but at the same time we don’t have that regret of “I wish I would’ve” because we did it. Obviously, we weren’t the next big YouTube stars, but at least we did something we felt passionate about at the time.

There is so much missed opportunity because people have so much fear of what people will say about them, or worry about the things they have absolutely no control over. I was backstage at a national pageant once & I was internally freaking out, but clearly, it was apparent because a little girl tugged on my gown & looked up at me & said “All you have to do is do your best & give God the rest.” Right when she said that I instantly had a calmness come over me. She saw something at that moment that I didn’t, & it was that I really couldn’t change anything by worrying, I could just perform to the best of my ability & leave it up to God to do what was meant to be, & I ended up winning that night.

Every time I worry about something or start stressing the little things that I have absolutely no control over, it ends up being destructive. In the bible it says "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." This verse always brings me peace when I am running over things in my mind that I can’t control.

The point of all this is to remind you that sometimes the weight the world puts on your shoulders will feel unbearable, & you will want to compromise yourself in order to fit into the molds society has created, but you don’t have to. It is easier to be weak in most situations, & that’s what separates people. You have to make the choice to stand up, be strong, & hold your own. I was listening to a podcast this morning, & it said something along the lines of how “80% of the world doesn’t care about your problems & then 20% is glad you have them.” Not the most positive quote, but it’s true. You have to have your best interest at heart because at the end of the day no one has time to do that for you. You have to learn to carry your own weight & be the change you wish to see in the world.

With all of this being said, I hope it served as a reminder that you are more than worthy just as you are. Everyone has different traits & personalities for a reason, don’t hold back the things that make you special & unique. Authenticity truly does shine & you can tell when people are being themselves, it gives you a sparkle that is undeniable, people will be drawn to it. Not only that, but it’s admirable to watch people fearlessly do the things they love. Once you let go of all the worries you have, you’ll be able to step into the best version of yourself, I promise. <3

Let em’ talk babe.